My husband and I have been looking for a different church to attend for awhile now to no avail. We live in the Bible belt and yet finding a church to fit us around here is next to impossible. I’ve visited churches in larger cites and thought almost right off the bat “I could fit in here”, but after trying 50 churches here, and not one seem to fit. Why is this? Why are our church still trying to please the dead? They aren’t changing with the times or trying to develop ways to reach the younger generations. I’m mean sure let’s be fair, there are some that are. But they often struggle to completely break free from their “old ways” and/or are lost in a gray area. I grew up Baptist. We awoke every Sunday morning so early I felt as though I was dying, put on a dress that I hated, tights, dress shoes and a fake smile. We went to Sunday school then attended the main service, then it was lunch, perhaps a nap then right back to church for the evening service, then church again on Wednesday nights. It’s not wonder that when I got to the age where I could decide things for myself I fled from this cycle of advents. I didn’t stop going to church or suddenly start claiming I wasn’t a Christian, I just simply realized that this wasn’t what my Christianity was about. I have never felt closer to God then I have when I’m in my comfy clothes, listening to a songs about God with and actual guitarist and drummer playing the music. I can feel is presents, I can hear the words, I can let my worries fall away and focus on Him. I am drug down by time frames and appearances in most churches, pressure to tithe, hatred towards the LGBT community, political views, desire to be liked and impress others. I am easily detracted and find it really hard to focus on my relationship with God when all these other things are going on. Why can’t we just love? How did we get so far away from God? We aren’t leading the lost to Christ. We are pushing people away and comfirming what they think they know about us. I’m not inviting my “lost” friends to church only to bore them or hear that God hates them. I need a church where I can dress as I please, begins at a time I would already be awake, plays music that I have hear before and that can be played by an actual band, where we don’t give communion all the times, where the “alter call” isn’t 25+ minutes long, where my tithing isn’t spent on a “golden calf” or where the word is spoken not altered or spoken from assumptions made from the bible. We need to try harder. We need find the right leaders and help them succeed in building a church that is for the people, ALL of them. Not one that is for show, pouring out lies and hate. I will end with if anyone has any recommendations please by all means share!